I occasionally take flack for my attitude on twitter when it comes to the success of Lore and my thoughts on podcasting as an industry. But it’s easy to misunderstand someone when you only take in partial elements of their public life. Context is the key to a complete picture, so here’s some context about me.
NB: Wherever you read the word “you”, just remember that “you” is anyone who thinks I should shut up and keep my opinions to myself. If you like what I say online, “you” isn’t you. Make sense? Good.
You say you don’t like it when I brag about my successes with Lore? That’s cool, and that’s certainly your right. But remember: I have just as much right to do a little dance and celebrate whenever I hit a new milestone or achive something that I see as significant. I don’t “retweet” compliments about me like a lot of people do. I don’t celebrate tons of things every single day. But when I hit big watermarks or have major news, I like to share it. Because…wait for it…I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished.
You see Lore as it is today. What you don’t see is my winding trail of failures. I spent years trying to make something that might experience a small level of success. Years. A blog network. Index cards. Business coaching. I tried it all, and all it got me was flop after flop. That sort of path is a very lonely, deeply depressing road to travel.
But here I am now. I’ve worked hard to make Lore, and for the first time ever, my efforts are paying off. So please, tell me again how annoying it is that I brag about the things I’ve accomplished. And tell me how you’d never do the same thing, if you were ever in my shoes.
Right. That’s what I thought.
Sometimes I have opinions about how people who are trying to do the same thing as me should go about doing it. And some people find those opinions to be a bit off-putting. I’m arrogant, they say. Egotistical. I’m honestly sorry if my opinions come across that way, but I still believe the things I say.
Are my opinions flawless? No way. I have a limited view of one particular industry in a very big world. I get that completely. Whenever I discover that I was wrong about something, it’s becomes just one more lesson learned on the road to becoming better at what I do. But I have to start somewhere. Some podcasters just like to work and be quiet. I like to work and share what I’ve learned. The spirit behind my opinions is generosity and helpfulness, not arrogance.
Here’s the deal, though: Lore is a personal learning experience. I’m making all of this up as I go along, and that means a couple of things. First, it means that I’m fighting really hard to learn these lessons. I’m feeling out the “game” and figuring out what the rules seem to be. Just because you don’t like hearing what I think those rules are, doesn’t mean they aren’t valid. At the very least, I have the right to my own opinions. At best, though, maybe I’ve learned something along the way that can benefit someone else. I like to help whenever I can.
Second, making it up as I go has filled me with a powerful sense of ownership. I earned this. I learned this. Thanks to some of the crazy things that have happened as a result of Lore, I’m learning lessons that most people don’t get a chance to discover. I think about these things a lot, partly because that’s how I learn, but mostly because I have this weird belief that, if I can just boil these lessons down to something resembling “simple advice”, I could maybe help other people.
If my opinions bother you, go away. That’s your right. Just like it’s my right to openly share the things I’ve learned.
My Thing is My Thing
I like what I do, and I like helping others do it, too. I believe that I can help people succeed by sharing these lessons that I’ve learned the hard way. I believe that I can support them along the way by showing them my accomplishments. Telling people “here’s a hint to help you out”, and “take a look at what you could accomplish” are both powerful messages for anyone struggling to stay in the game.
If you don’t like those messages, go someplace else. But here, in my space, I’m going to do my thing.